If you tune in regularly you may have noticed I almost always publish by 11 a.m. PST. Sticking with this schedule allows me to use the remainder of the day for exercise, writing the book and plotting revenge on those who have hurt me. I’m still working my way through the insults I suffered in grade school, so if I haven’t gotten to you yet, please be patient.
Today, given the length and complexity of the question, there is no way I can meet that deadline. Rather than posting late, I’ve decided to give it the best I’ve got and use it for tomorrow’s blog. However, I am posting the question today so you all have some time to think about it and perhaps weigh in by leaving a comment. There’s a lot going on with this woman!
Before I do that, I want to show you all an advertisement I came across the other day from a local divorce firm:
Aside from being outstandingly tacky, this ad confuses me. Is the point that the man in the photo is married and cheating? Or is it insinuating if you got married too quickly (out of lust – I guess this firm hasn’t heard about the sexual revolution yet) they can help you out with a divorce?
Whatever the point, it’s just gross and confounding. I yearn for the days when legal advertising had parameters that sought to preclude tasteless material that reflects poorly on the profession. Damn that first amendment!
What do you think it means? Please take a moment to weigh in by leaving a comment. Also, if you are willing to share any first-hand experiences with exceptionally aggressive, negative and napalm-tactic divorce lawyers, please email me so I can document your story for my book.
See you all tomorrow, when we answer Theresa’s question with a few questions of our own!
I have been engaged to Peter for 4 years but have resisted marrying him for several reasons. His family has treated me like crap from the beginning. They hate that I am Catholic (they are Christian Orthodox) and have never told anyone that Peter was divorced. We were invited to his cousin’s wedding in Nov 2010 after we were engaged, and people looked at me like I had two heads because they didn’t know who I was.
We live like we are married and have told his family that we did get married in hopes it would make them accept me and treat me with respect. That didn’t happen. The family still refers to the ex-wife as Aunt Karen, but they won’t call me Aunt Theresa.
Peter wants to go home to celebrate his birthday with his twin sister. I gave him a few conditions that need to be straightened out if I were to consider attending:
1. His mother must stop referring to his ex wife (who they hated) as her daughter in law.
2. I will not see his two older siblings who have actually cursed me out.
3. His twin sister will refer to me in front of her children as Uncle Peter and Aunt Theresa, not Uncle Peter and Theresa.
I’ve been put in too many bad situations over the last five years and I want assurances I won’t face that again. At the father’s funeral, they had posters and slide shows of photos including from Peter’s wedding. Of course there was not a single photo of me.
Besides the issues with his family, whenever Peter gets angry he curses, insults me and preys on my deepest insecurities. The next day he acts like nothing happened. The F word gets thrown around you f-ing whiny little bitch, you dipshit, you pathetic loser, etc. and he has never apologized.
He has asked me to just be quiet when he’s angry and we saw a counselor who agreed and said I should let him rant in his “man cave.” Last night I just did that, but he kept going on and on and on – I sat there watching tv ignoring his little tantrum, until he finally said he doesn’t have sex with me because he’s not into me (Peter has low testosterone, by the way).
Robin, I lost it. I told him he was a bald, fat, ugly limp-dick piece of shit. I told him he destroyed me and that what he said was code for telling me to have an affair.
My son has gone through lots of trauma during my divorce with his father when he was 11 and has one more year at home. He has spent more time with Peter than he has with his own father and Peter treats him like a son. He is finally doing well and I can’t uproot his life when he’s entering his senior year.
I love this man and he is usually good to me but I’m not sure I should marry him. We have talked about getting married in the next few months. What do you think?