Welcome to Friday Feedback, our weekly peering under the hood of this advice vehicle and fiddling with wires we don’t understand.
Today I am focusing solely on feedback from letter writers themselves. The lesson for you in this exercise is if you want to be featured on Friday Feedback, you must write me a question! In all seriousness, I have about two or three weeks of questions in the blogging bank, and I need more.
Please send me your issues at firstname.lastname@example.org. As I’ve said before, if I can’t fix your problems, at least I can make you laugh or offend you like you’ve never been offended before.
First up, the gentleman who asked me advice on raising his daughter:
“Brilliant! Thoughtful, insightful and funny. Well done, RD!”
Aw shucks, thanks! I really loved your question because I feel so deeply about the importance of raising girls to be strong, independent and self-assured. Just the fact that you are thoughtful enough to have asked me this question indicates you are already on the right path.
I look forward to reading about your daughter when she takes the world by storm.
Next up, the woman who wrote to me about her incessant worrying:
“Robin, thank you so much for your response to my question. I forwarded it to all of my girlfriends and we all started talking about the symptoms we’ve been experiencing. This email chain was hilarious and I am going to send it to you.
It seems we have all been downplaying what’s happening to our bodies and what a relief it was to finally talk about it. Thanks! I made an appointment with my doctor and my gynecologist for next week so I’ve followed your advice. I’m also taking up tennis again – something I gave up years ago when my life got busy. I’m excited about doing something new and I will just make the time for me.
Thanks again, that was really helpful and so funny!”
Well, my dear, I am always happy to help, especially when it’s another woman of my vintage who is suffering as I am from the cruel yet inevitable Change of Life. And thank YOU, because you gave me a great subject to write about and you shared it with your friends. Sharing is caring!
And finally, I wouldn’t call this “hate mail” per se, but it isn’t exactly positive feedback:
I took your advice and decided not to pursue my student romantically until next semester. Well guess what? She ended up getting back together with her ex-husband, or so she told me during office hours last week. Thanks a lot. Thanks for nothing.”
Dear Stupid, Stupid Man:
“Office hours?” During which you discussed her love life? I think we may have had a major communication breakdown somewhere…
First of all, I saved you from possibly losing your job. Second of all, I saved you from becoming emotionally invested in a woman who is still in love with her ex-husband, the father of her child.
You’re welcome, Assholio. Have a nice weekend.