Friday Feedback on Sunday Morning

Welcome to Sunday morning Friday Feedback!

I want to thank the numerous readers for responding via comments, private emails and phone calls to Friday’s blog about some anonymous hate mail. 

One thing I’ve learned over the past couple of years is that sometimes the people you know the least will show you the most support during trying times. Your messages were funny, smart, and encouraging.

When I woke up this morning I read through them all again and realized that although I am humbled by your responses, I won’t give time and space to trolls any longer.  

Anyone who writes me or anybody else in my family without the guts to sign their name has not earned a coveted spot here.  No chickenshits allowed!


Doing the analysis of the letter was fun, because observing someone step on their dick so many times in three sentences was highly amusing.  Still,  I have more pressing matters to attend to and this crap is just background noise.  

What’s interesting is I’ve made a conscious effort not to write about any specific lawyers or cases lately, as those of you who are pissed at me because I’ve paused “Anatomy of a Disaster” are well aware.  I think the letter came because narcissists cannot exist without an audience – we all are oxygen to them – and being written about critically was preferable to not being written about at all.

I produced the reaction this narcissist so deeply needs, thereby stroking his or her ego and giving them my attention when they really don’t deserve it.

For these reasons I have set Friday’s post to “private.”  If you’d like to read it just email me at and I’ll send it to you.

Stay tuned this week for musings on divorce regrets, falling off the wagon (ouch!), and what to do when your miserable married friends won’t stop telling you their problems since you divorced and found happiness.



This Post Has 10 Comments

  1. Mariners Fan

    I thought you handled it with aplomb and I’m sorry to see it taken offline. I understand your objective here but we all admire the feistiness with which you take on the DICKs. I hope we haven’t seen the last of that.

    My wife hired a particularly nasty attorney here in Seattle who managed to stretch our divorce out over two years. At the end, she didn’t get as much at trial as I offered her in the first month of our settlement talks.

    That litigation cost our family well over $330,000. As a result we have both been set back quite a bit financially when we could have just walked away from the fight and gotten on with our lives. We also have a poor co-parenting relationship and I believe much of the animosity is residual from the poisonous way her lawyer handled her side of the divorce. He could not have been more nasty and obstructive if he had tried and as a result I have a difficult time forgiving her.

    So, DesCamp, keep it up. Come visit me for a round at MY golf club and I’ll tell you all about it. I’ll email you (hint: we’ve met before).

    1. Robin DesCamp

      Thank you! I look forward to a round. Please email me – I’ll be up your way very soon.

  2. Another Complainant Victim

    Score one for the other side. Are you going to bury the bar complaint response you promised too?

    1. Robin DesCamp

      Please don’t think of it that way. I am deep in crunch-time right now and I just don’t think I need to waste my bandwidth, literally and figuratively, on a dying dinosaur. There are a couple major pieces in the works for later down the line, depending upon how some situations evolve. I can’t say more than that right now, except that these pieces are being written for a much larger purpose than simply calling people to task for their bad behavior. The ramifications are on a much greater scale than that. I don’t even need to use names if I don’t want to.

      The bar complaint will be published. It’s too fucking funny not to put up here. I am on page 26 of my response and it makes me giggle to no end. The due date is presently April 20 so expect it, barring any unforeseen requests by me for an extension, on that date. How perfect is that? 4/20 (if you get the reference) you will get to read my response to a bar complaint so outrageous and ridiculous one might assume the writer was stoned out of their mind when they drafted it!

      Thank you for your comment. Please keep them coming!

  3. tamsen

    Just don’t stop taking the DICKS to task and exposing their ugliness (in every sense of the word). As your Mariners fan, above in the comments, can attest, ugly divorces do nothing but waste money and turn bad marriages into miserable divorces. The only beneficiaries are the DICKS. Keep at ’em.

    1. Robin DesCamp

      Thank you. I am racing to finish all book edits by early next week and I know my book will change lives and help families. That is my #1 priority right now and the DICKs are successfully sinking their own boats without me. Please share today’s post to help me generate buzz!


    Happily I printed your blog last Friday because I found it to be such a great example of using humor and reason to take down an inferior argument. You are not the only one familiar with this font and this style of writing. Upon reading the letter I knew exactly who wrote it.

    I came back this morning to forward the blog to a friend who has experienced something nearly identical and I’m disappointed to see the post has been eliminated. This isn’t like you, Robin. There is a difference between lending space to a troll and defending yourself and your family from anonymous claims such as those set forth in that letter.

    These days there are far too many people unwilling to take a stand for people and ideas that matter to them. They would rather “let things go” and “be the bigger person” in silence. You have gone to bat for divorce victims for a long time, and other people who suffer ills at the hands of others. Your family should be very proud of you and see this letter as a sign you are an effective advocate for others. I assume they do?

    You’ve shared some intimate details of your life to help others and Friday’s work was a prime example of that. I enjoy the way you laugh at yourself and peel back the layers of your ego to arrive at a greater truth that transcends embarrassment.


    1. Robin DesCamp

      Thank you for your comment. I don’t think readers fully understand how much words like that inspire me. Still, I won’t be posting it again. Maybe someday it will go in a Michael-Moore inspired book: DICKs and Me!

      My family is proud of me, or at least that’s what they tell me when I threaten to withhold my amazing cooking from them. Archie the Drunken Chihuahua, however, thinks sometimes I go too far. That’s saying something, considering he once had a three-day sleepover with our neighbor’s cat and claimed despite all the tequila he brought to the party that everything was consensual.

  5. Keith Stone

    what PDXATTY said.

  6. Kristi

    I like your attitude on it and I think you’re right. It’s a fight between good reading material for your site and also not giving them the power they want which is attention. I always find it fascinating when people put so much energy into people they despise. Once I’m done with someone, I walk away and never look back. Writing their spouses or jobs letters about them never even occurs to me and you know I’ve been dogged pretty badly. It’s petty and pathetic.
    Keep doing you and don’t let them occupy any space on your site or your head. I know and you know you’re better than that. Keep the awesome advice going because most are mature enough to handle it and accept it for how it’s intended. I didn’t like the advice you gave me years ago, but once I got over myself and realized you were right….I appreciated it and two years later I’m happier than I’ve ever been and you had a big part in that.
    Good luck with finishing up your book!

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