Dear Robin:
I am a member of a small tennis and pool club here in Seattle. I spend a great deal of time at the club and consider it my sanctuary. I recently found out that a woman I cannot stand is applying for membership with her new husband, who I also cannot stand.
Dear Robin:
I make my last alimony payment on Thursday. I find myself strangely numb and apprehensive rather than arranging for a hooker waiting for me when I come home next to an urn of cocaine and chilled Dom Perignon.
This is the first time in 10 years I will have my full paycheck rather than just enough to scrape by. So why am I not dancing for joy at the end of this onerous obligation?
Free at Last
Robin:
This morning I read your comment on the WSJ about equal parenting time. Why should I agree to that when I have been the main caregiver of my kids since they were born?
Dear Readers:
Today I finally write the advice portion of my response to the woman wondering if her beloved husband will ever have relief from his alimony sentence so he can finally retire.
Dear Robin:
I found your name through a Google search on alimony and I’ve just spent the past few days reading everything you’ve ever written. I love your blog!
Here’s my question: I married a man who pays “indefinite” alimony to his ex-wife. He is 65 and wants to retire soon but if he still has to pay her he can’t.
We keep hoping she will get remarried but she seems to have no interest in dating. I don’t think she ever even leaves her house, and she is still extremely bitter about the divorce.