I apologize for the technical difficulties we’ve been experiencing. The site is back up and running although we are still working through some kinks.
I received a stunning letter from a reader concerning her divorce counsel and was planning on writing it up today but as I’ve spoken further with the advice-seeker I find myself tasked with an answer more complicated than I thought it would be at first blush.
Here’s what I received:
I recently found out that my lawyer was physically abusive towards her children. She assaulted her 16-year-old by biting her, very hard, on the arm. Apparently the daughter then punched my lawyer in the mouth and the two went at it in a brawl to end all brawls.
My lawyer is proud of this story but I find it very disconcerting. I’m not sure I want to leave my legal issues in the hands of someone who would assault their own child and who is proud of the fact that her parenting style is abusive.
She is also very mean to and intimidating towards her husband and speaks poorly of him. This bothers me a lot, especially since she does it right in front of him and others in the office.
Am I being too judgmental? Should I be concerned about my lawyer’s ability to handle my divorce if she doesn’t seem to have a handle on her own life?
Second Thoughts in Sellwood
Not only does this raise obvious questions about the qualifications needed to be a good domestic relations attorney, it also poses mandatory reporting requirement questions for the lawyer. And for me.
As it turns out, the letter-writer is a doctor, meaning we have another thread of mandatory reporting to analyze.
Needless to say, that’s a lot to think about. Come back tomorrow when I answer her question and dive into all the crazy tangents it presents.
You will notice our social media buttons are missing. That should be repaired in the next day or two but since we’ve suffered this weeklong setback, I hope you will all consider sharing the blog with all your friends in the good-old-fashioned copy/paste manner. I know it’s a lot of work, but my appreciation is surely worth it.
Finally, please click here for a fun rerun: Dad Won’t Come to my Big Gay Wedding!
I hope all of you had a wonderful holiday. Onward and upward!