Friday Feedback: You Dirty Rotten Whore

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Welcome to Friday Feedback, our weekly pretending that we care what anyone thinks, and by “we” I mean the royal “we,” because I am the queen.

First in line to take a swing at me today is Shawna.  That’s kind of a trashy name, don’t you think?  Shawna wrote to me through my contact form but strangely enough did not respond to my efforts to engage her in a conversation.  Some people just need to dump and run.

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“Ignoring the morality question with someone considering sleeping with a married man is reprehensible, foul and disgusting.  Is that how you live your life?  Don’t you care about how actions impact others and morality in our society?  Without morality we would have died out as a species eons ago.  It was Rousseau who noted life without morals would be awful lonely poor nasty brutish and short – or did you miss that day in class?

I listened to your radio “performance” in Palm Springs and you mentioned you choose letters you can relate to.  So I guess I can assume you are a home-wrecker?  In that case, should you be advising anyone about anything, except home-wrecking?”

Dear Shawna:

Thank you for being a fan.

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You read my blog, you listen to me on the radio and you took the time to write this feedback.  Buried in your critique of Should I Have an Affair with a Married Man? is the essential element of this blog and what makes me different and relatable: sometimes I choose letters based upon personal experience.

Then again, sometimes I don’t.  I’m sure you read yesterday’s blog Not Welcome Home for the Holidays.  This particular issue (a family coming to terms with homosexuality) has not arisen in my life, nor has the need to explore the etiquette of how to initiate a threesome (at home or abroad) raised by the incredibly popular blog: Threesome Etiquette.

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I’m not sure how to respond to your feedback except to say I would rather take advice from someone who has lived through a similar situation than someone who hasn’t.

As for why I didn’t harp on the morality issue in the blog and focused more upon potential ramifications for the advice seeker, that was not my place nor was it necessary.  Everyone who is reasonably mentally healthy knows the difference between right and wrong.  Doing the right thing solely because it is the right thing to do is entirely another matter, so directing this woman to think selfishly was brilliant, in my opinion.

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Finally, I majored in political science so your “Rousseau quote” was very fun for me.  First of all, it wasn’t Rousseau who said that, it was Hobbes.  I know you’re confused right now because you think I mean this guy:

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When I am actually referring to Thomas Hobbes, who was not nearly as cute:

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Hobbes wrote famously about the social contract in Leviathan, and the quote you mangled was in reference to life in the state of nature without order, law and government, a state which Hobbes claimed would be “solitary poor nasty brutish and short.”  You know, cause we’d all be raping each other and shit like that.  He was kind of a pessimist about man, no?  But he was probably right.  Humans are pretty awful.

You, Shawna, have misinterpreted this quote (not to mention misattributing it to a French guy – a French guy!) and your penance will be going to each philosopher’s Wikipedia page and educating yourself.  I’m not trying to be a history Nazi or anything, but you really messed up here.

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Now run along and play in traffic, missy.  I have fame to court.

-Robin

And like a second wife, good must follow bad.  Here was a nice exchange I had via Facebook about the blog (I am deleting this person’s name from the chat and replacing it with (“Superfan”):

Superfan:

I am becoming dangerously close to being considered a borderline stalker but I think I will just accept super fan. HUGE FAN. HUGE.

  • Robin Descamp

    Seriously? I’m totally honored!!!

     I’d be so thrilled if you’d be willing to share the blog on your page. Just left meeting with radio agent and shit is happening!! But I need to grow my base. Thank you for being a fan!
     Superfan:
  • I did share, this morning! I fucking LOVE it, and have a million emails I could send you, let’s be honest, but my post-baby hormonal state just can’t handle a verbal bitch slapping right now. I have some favorite broads I will be broadcasting to as well. And, I am a die hard Howard fan.

    My company should plan a morale event, with you as the main event! Keep on, keeping on. You are AHMAHZING!

  • Robin Descamp

    Thank you! I’d love it if your company would do that, but HR would probably say I’d kill morale rather than boosting it. Congrats on le bebe. How old?

    Superfan:
  • I ALMOST emailed you last week, as we are growing through particular struggles in our workspace, but chickened out over the notion I would get in trouble. You would be very well received, that I am certain.

    Baby is six months, and I have a nearly 12 year daughter from my first wives club days. It’s a miracle I’m not committed.

  • Robin Descamp

    Feel free to email me any time!!

    OK folks, I am drafting the final half of chapter 1 of the book today so I must toddle along.  Have a great weekend.  I may not rant or otherwise post this weekend because a) it’s nice in Portland and mama needs some golf time with Mr. Patience and Understanding, and b) the career is burbling and must be tended to.

    More on that very soon, dear readers.  Please share the blog and email me your questions at askdescamp@gmail.com.

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This Post Has One Comment

  1. echinachea

    Wowza! “Shawna” totally missed your point re the blog dealing with married-man-dilemma. Some folks just can’t handle subtlety. Funny how people who are overly concerned with the behavior of others often have nasty skeletons in their own back yard. In no way did you encourage the writer with the married man issue to pursue that unwise avenue, so I don’t get what Shawna’s self-righteous rant is all about. Oh well; it takes all kinds. I just got yelled at for playing fetch-it with doggie on condo lawn, so yes, the unofficial policemen (and women) of the universe are hard to escape. Your response to Shawna was right on the button, but I doubt she will get it since she can’t tell the difference between Rousseau and Hobbes.

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