Look Before You Leap

Look Before You Leap

Dear Readers:

Update: it’s Wednesday morning and I am in the ER with a possible fucked-up, also known as “lacerated” or “ruptured” spleen.  So how does this change the story below?  And will that depend on how things turn out for me today?

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Should I Apply for Jobs "Beneath" Me?

Dear Robin:

I lost my job seven months ago and I’m having trouble finding another one. In the meantime, my wife is getting frustrated that I’m not applying for some jobs because I know I am overqualified.

Should I go after those jobs or keep looking for the “right” one? For context: my last position was head of security for a major corporation and my wife is encouraging me to apply for jobs in loss prevention.

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Confrontation v. Conversation

Dear Robin:

I have worked with “Blaire” for nearly six months since she arrived at my company where I’ve worked since 2005.  In that short time she has done several sneaky things to undermine me with my boss and co-workers.

Her efforts tend to be clumsy and fail but she has yet to be fired and I’m worried one of these days she may succeed in making me look bad.  Clearly she is angling for my job but she’s much younger and does not have the requisite experience.

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Wife Addicted to the Computer

Readers:

I’m so excited!  I received a follow-up email yesterday from someone who wrote me almost a year ago.  

I LOVE IT when this happens so if you’ve written to me and want to share whether you took my advice and how things are going, please do.  

Email me at robin@robindescamp.com and I will write a followup if you like or keep it private if that’s your choice.

Here’s the original column:

Dear Robin:

I’ve been married for 31 years, most of them pretty damn good, but things started to go south about 12-15 years ago when my wife started spending time on the computer.

She mostly went online for email when the kids were in school but then at some point it just became a constant thing and she is always on Facebook and Twitter and Pinterest and eBay and all sorts of other sites where she interacts with everyone except me.

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