My Ex-Husband is Getting Remarried Too Soon

Dear Robin:

My husband and I divorced 13 months ago and he is already engaged. We have one child who is 13 and lives with us each half time.

We generally enjoy a good post-divorce relationship but this announcement has me worried about our daughter.  I’m thinking of asking for more parenting time and if he doesn’t agree my lawyer is suggesting I initiate a modification proceeding.

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Carrying a Torch After an Affair

Dear Robin:

I had a brief but very intense love affair several years ago. The relationship ended for one big reason that I can’t discuss, but when we broke up it was very hard on both of us.

I am a middle-age man who has been in love before and I am married, but I have never had a connection with anyone like I did with her. I miss her and I think about her all the time.

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How Do I Lose Weight?

Dear Robin:

Long time fan, first time writer! My husband is tired of hearing me complain about my weight but I’m sure he’d be happy if I did something about it. When we married almost 20 years ago I weighed 140 but today I am closer to 190.

LOL I haven’t been on a scale in over a year so who knows what I really weigh? Every time I start a new program I get bored and frustrated that the weight doesn’t come off faster and I quit.

Do you have any advice for me? This probably seems like a dumb question because I know you have some serious things coming to you every day, but it matters to me. I am free to talk by email if you want more detail.*


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Wife Addicted to the Computer


I’m so excited!  I received a follow-up email yesterday from someone who wrote me almost a year ago.  

I LOVE IT when this happens so if you’ve written to me and want to share whether you took my advice and how things are going, please do.  

Email me at and I will write a followup if you like or keep it private if that’s your choice.

Here’s the original column:

Dear Robin:

I’ve been married for 31 years, most of them pretty damn good, but things started to go south about 12-15 years ago when my wife started spending time on the computer.

She mostly went online for email when the kids were in school but then at some point it just became a constant thing and she is always on Facebook and Twitter and Pinterest and eBay and all sorts of other sites where she interacts with everyone except me.

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