Gossiping, Lying Ex-Friend

Dear Robin:

I’ve read your blog since the beginning and I love your philosophy on breaking away from toxic friendships regardless of how long you’ve been friends with someone.

I have a little twist on that and a question for you: About 8 months ago I finally withdrew completely from a woman (Carrie) I have known since I was in college. Over the years she had grown increasingly bitter and angry and honestly we have very little in common anymore.

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Am I Jealous of My Kid?

Love, n. A temporary insanity curable by marriage. 

― Ambrose Bierce, The Unabridged Devil’s Dictionary

Dear Robin:

Ever since we had our son 2 1/2 years ago my wife Trina treats me like a business partner and not like a husband.  We used to have a happy marriage but now she is totally focused on our son to the point I’m not sure she’d notice if I weren’t around.

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My Wife Wants Me to Choose Sides in Divorce


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My wife and I are having the same general argument we always have but on a different topic.  Our main problem always seems to boil down to loyalty.  For example, this week’s fight is over her best friend’s ex-husband James, who I am friends with and have been for over 15 years.  

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Givers, Takers, and Robin’s Struggle with a Decision Tree

Dear Readers:

Today finds your Advice Goddess perplexeled (new word; please begin using immediately) over the creation of a decision tree.  

Why am I creating a decision tree?  

Because a reader sent me a question concerning loyalty and I thought it would be helpful to create a tool that would aid him in determining when he is being asked by his wife simply to be “loyal” or when his acquiescence to her wishes lands him squarely in the “Simpering Pussy Manchild” category.

More specifically, this man’s wife, under the false guise of “loyalty,” is demanding her husband stop spending time with his buddy because he divorced her best friend.

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Burning Bridges and Building Boobies

Dear Readers:

I’ve had a fire lit under me by people up the blog food chain and Chapter 3 (now written) must be edited and finalized by the end of the day.  

Chapter 3 is titled “You’ve Hired Your Attorney, Now Do Your Job: Managing your Attorney Fees.”  In it I’ll show you how the dirty divorce sausage is made and how to avoid becoming grist for the mill.

Do not stop reading!  Please continue below!

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