Accept Money from Father-in-Law to Buy a House?

Dear Robin:

My wife and I have been arguing about the same issue for almost a week.  Please settle this for us.

We have been renting for two years and our landlord has decided to sell the house in early 2016.  We are in a position to buy a house and have started looking but housing prices are crazy and we can’t get much for our budget.

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I Don’t Want a Big Gay Wedding!

Hi Robin!

My partner and I are discussing getting married. I would like to have a City Hall wedding and save the tens of thousands we would spend, but my husband wants to have a traditional wedding. Even a modest wedding here in California would cost tens of thousands of dollars and require all of our friends to travel here to Palm Springs from the East Coast.

We recently purchased a home, and we are both entrepreneurs who are building our businesses. We are not wealthy by any means, and I can think of so many other uses for that wedding money.

I don’t want to insult my partner or hurt his feelings by suggesting that we forego a wedding, but I just think that there are better uses for the money, and living with less debt would add to our quality of life. How should I raise this issue without hurting my dear partner’s feelings?

I don’t want him to think that my reluctance to get sucked into an expensive wedding is a sign I don’t value our future union, because that is the furthest thing from the truth.


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