Is Retirement An Impossible Dream For An Alimony Payer?

Is Retirement an Impossible Dream for an Alimony Payer?

Dear Robin:

I found your name through a Google search on alimony and I’ve just spent the past few days reading everything you’ve ever written.  I love your blog!

Here’s my question: I married a man who pays “indefinite” alimony to his ex-wife.  He is 65 and wants to retire soon but if he still has to pay her he can’t.

We keep hoping she will get remarried but she seems to have no interest in dating.  I don’t think she ever even leaves her house, and she is still extremely bitter about the divorce.

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He Keeps Threatening Divorce (Freshly Pressed AskDesCamp!)

Dear Robin:

I consider myself happily married (second for us both) with the exception of occasional complications of our “blended family.”  My husband and I have very different perspectives on how those issues should be handled and whenever they come up there is stress in the marriage.

That’s no big deal because I know there’s no such thing as a perfect marriage. My problem is several times when we discuss or argue over this matter my husband has threatened me with divorce.  

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