Fiance’s Ultimatum

Dear Robin,

I am writing to ask if I should voice my opinion to my 28-year-old niece Heidi.  Her fiancé Dennis is adamant that she take his name when they get married because “that’s how it should be.”

Heidi is very conflicted about this because she flat-out does not want to “feel erased” or lose her identity. She was up front with her wishes but he thought she was kidding!  His position is this is non-negotiable: she agrees to change her name or the wedding is  off.  

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