No More Alimony!  So Why The Letdown?

No More Alimony! So Why the Letdown?

Dear Robin:

I make my last alimony payment on Thursday. I find myself strangely numb and apprehensive rather than arranging for a hooker waiting for me when I come home next to an urn of cocaine and chilled Dom Perignon.

This is the first time in 10 years I will have my full paycheck rather than just enough to scrape by. So why am I not dancing for joy at the end of this onerous obligation?

Free at Last

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Is Retirement An Impossible Dream For An Alimony Payer?

Is Retirement an Impossible Dream for an Alimony Payer?

Dear Robin:

I found your name through a Google search on alimony and I’ve just spent the past few days reading everything you’ve ever written.  I love your blog!

Here’s my question: I married a man who pays “indefinite” alimony to his ex-wife.  He is 65 and wants to retire soon but if he still has to pay her he can’t.

We keep hoping she will get remarried but she seems to have no interest in dating.  I don’t think she ever even leaves her house, and she is still extremely bitter about the divorce.

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