Can you feel it?
Can you smell it?
Can you taste it?
That hard-to-define crackle in the air is my book entering its final gestational phase and preparing to emerge from the lips of my computer.
Divorce by Design: How to Split Without Losing Your Mind, Your Money and Your Kids is coming, but I could still use a few stories on the following subjects:
- REGRETS: Did you go through an ugly divorce, play a major role in fanning the flames, and regret it now? I really want to hear from you.
- MONEY: How much did your divorce cost in total legal fees and associated costs (both spouses)?
- PIT BULLS: Divorce lawyers from hell (yours or your spouse’s) complete with specific examples of disturbing incidents.
- DOCUMENTS: WTF divorce or post-divorce documents that make you scratch your head and think, “That lawyer actually wrote that?” For example: a discovery request to Wife #2 in an alimony modification proceeding for her still-very-much-alive parents’ wills.
- FRIENDLINESS: How you managed to be friendly to an ex for the sake of your kids.
- HAPPY KIDS: If you had a collaborative divorce at least 5 years ago, how your kids are doing now.
- CHOSE TO STAY: Did you choose to stay in an unhappy marriage? For how long? If you are still there, how’s that working out for you?
- MEDIATION: Were you successful in mediating a divorce prior to lengthy litigation? Please tell me all about it!
All stories should be sent to firstname.lastname@example.org. If you want to be included in the book, anonymously or otherwise, you will need to submit your materials by August 15th.
Many people have asked whether I am including stories about step-families. I am not, and here’s why:
The subject of step-families could fill at least one more book, and probably two.
I’ve received so many letters from second wives, second husbands, step-parents, and step-children that I’ve decided to tackle this in a subsequent book.
“Why Are You Here and When Will You Go Away?” Surviving and Thriving in Your Step-Family Experience.
This book will be a collection of stories and advice on how to navigate the often treacherous waters of second (and third, and fourth, etc.) marriages. My research confirms there are many reasons why those marriages have a much higher divorce rate than first marriages.
Please add your voice!
I need stories, good, bad, and terrible, from those of you living in the step-world. Please email them to: email@example.com but title the subject of the email “step-families” so I can file accordingly.
To the readers complaining about the lack of fresh advice lately: be patient! Divorce by Design: How to Split Without Losing Your Mind, Your Money and Your Kids will be worth it! I promise.
Finally, I want to say thank you to someone.
This person arrived in my life when I was 18 and had an enormous impact on my family.
She has since popped in and out of my life and continued to influence not only how I think about lawyers, but how I think about people.
Her actions and approach to life serve as a beautiful illustration of the unlimited capacity human beings have to profoundly affect one another. Each time I hear a new story about how she works, I am blown away by her willingness to do whatever it takes to win.
Whatever it takes. No matter what.
While I have plenty of people to thank on my book’s dedication page, she deserves recognition as well. It would not have been possible to write about the broken, corrupt, hateful, inefficient, and irrational DIC (Divorce Industrial Complex) without her contributions.
On a final and totally unrelated note, this week I wrote a blog about a law clerk concerned her boss may be cheating on her taxes. I also separately posted that piece on LinkedIn.
As of this moment it has garnered 235 views on LinkedIn, which is pretty amazing considering I only have 352 connections. Please click here to read it: Is My Boss Cheating on Her Taxes?
If you’d like to leave a comment anonymously, please click here and comment on my blog version: Naughty Lawyer!
Take note on either site of a comment from “Vicky” and let me know what you think. Is she defensive? Rightfully so? And why isn’t she also commenting on the issue of children and other relatives on the payroll and using firm credit cards (some for a fun vacation to Europe!) who don’t actually work at the firm?
Happy Friday, everyone! Have a great weekend. And remember, if you like this, share this!