Is Retirement An Impossible Dream For An Alimony Payer?

Is Retirement an Impossible Dream for an Alimony Payer?

Dear Robin:

I found your name through a Google search on alimony and I’ve just spent the past few days reading everything you’ve ever written.  I love your blog!

Here’s my question: I married a man who pays “indefinite” alimony to his ex-wife.  He is 65 and wants to retire soon but if he still has to pay her he can’t.

We keep hoping she will get remarried but she seems to have no interest in dating.  I don’t think she ever even leaves her house, and she is still extremely bitter about the divorce.

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Friday Feedback: Robin Takes A Beating And Lives To Tell About It!

Friday Feedback: Robin Takes a Beating and Lives to Tell About It!

Dear Readers:

Welcome to Friday Feedback, a formerly-weekly and now sporadic feature of the blog in which I post and comment upon reader reactions to my work.

It’s been a while since I did this, but my mailbox has been bursting since I began writing the series, “Anatomy of a Disaster.”  

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Anatomy Of A Disaster Part One, Scene Three: The Box, The Lies, And The Unraveling

Anatomy of a Disaster Part One, Scene Three: The Box, the Lies, and the Unraveling

Dear Readers:

Today I continue telling Sarah’s story.

If you have not read the first three installments in this series, please do so before you continue.  I’ll give you handy-dandy links because I am a very giving person!

1. Cast of Characters

2. Sarah’s Story

3. Let’s Get Something Straight

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Anatomy Of A Disaster Part 1, Scene 2: Let’s Get Something Straight, Bub.

Anatomy of a Disaster Part 1, Scene 2: Let’s Get Something Straight, Bub.

UPDATE (March 17):

You will see when you read the comments below I believed Samantha was behind some of them.  She insists she is not, and has filed a bar complaint against me that includes my assumption.  I would like to state unequivocally I do not know the identity of the commenter and I may very well have been mistaken when I assumed it was Samantha.  My apologies if I was wrong.

Dear Readers:

Before I continue with this story, I’d like to get something on the record.

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Anatomy Of A Disaster Part 1: Not Your Average Divorce (Scene 1)

Anatomy of a Disaster Part 1: Not Your Average Divorce (Scene 1)

Welcome to my first blog series,

Anatomy of a Disaster.”

This series will examine the horrors of the Divorce Industrial Complex as illustrated through one “perfect storm” case. I will be posting new series segments intermittently while continuing my advice blog and random musings.

Of course, we can’t talk about the Morris divorce until we talk about the Morris marriage.

These first blogs will serve as the emotional story background for later works that will delve into the mechanics of one of the worst divorces I’ve studied – and considering how many I’ve looked into that is really saying something.

Sarah’s Story

Sarah Morris sits on my living room couch, tucks her feet under her, and sighs as I pour her a drink.

She’s earned this drink, so I give her a country club pour.

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