How Do I Stop Thinking About Someone?

Dear Robin:

I like what you’ve written about friendship and especially a recent piece on what you referred to as the “social flush.”

What I can’t figure out is how do you get past being really screwed over by a friend?  

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I Want My Ex-Wife to Admit She Cheated

Dear Robin:

I was divorced several months ago and although I was stunned when my wife left me, I made the best of things and made certain we had a drama-free divorce and maintained a good relationship so we could successfully co-parent our two young children, both of whom are happy and thriving now.

Yes, I read your blog, and you gave me a lot of great advice by phone during my divorce. You are the reason I was able to achieve this feat in the midst of my anguish and worry. Thanks for that.

I recently began to suspect my wife was cheating during our marriage (Readers: I told Matt this when he first contacted me about his sudden divorce a year ago but he didn’t believe me. Sometimes I truly do hate being right all the time).

I’ve started to do some investigating such as talking to her friends, looking at travel records, phone and credit card bills, and it seems pretty obvious what was going on.

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Protestations and Explanations

Dear Robin:

My husband Claude and I have been together a long time.  We have had some ups and downs but for many reasons the past couple years have been especially rough.  As bad as things were they got worse.

I began to hear some rumors that my husband was having an affair with a woman named Gertrude who is single (sort of; that’s another story) and who has a very bad reputation around our small city.  

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Should I Call Off My Engagement? (Extended Remix/Dance Version)

Readers:

You have no idea how much I edited both the original letter and my response and still this is a long blog.  Therefore, today you get two for the price of one!  This is the long version, the short version will be published forthwith.  Happy Monday!

Dear Robin:

I’m a 28-year-old college student recently engaged (wedding next summer) to my partner “Jim” of 5 years whom I love fiercely and until a week ago could see myself perfectly content with for the rest of my life.

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