This is a two-part blog. It simply isn’t possible for me to fully address this question in one sitting – there’s too much “there” there.
The more I thought about this and discussed it with the letter-writer this morning, the more angry I became.
I’m not joking. I know all of you have come to enjoy this place for my sense of humor but oftentimes I am faced with a situation that is so surreal and horrible that it really affects me.
Yes, I have feelings. Deal with it.
As a result of my burbling fury this morning, I was forced to reverse my usual morning schedule of writing first and working out afterward. I stood up from my computer and went to my impressive home gym (a recumbent bike in my basement family room) and tried to exercise my demons.
Yes grammar Nazis, I know I spelled that wrong. It was a pun, for which I deserve punishment in the punitentiary.
I feel better now but time will not allow me to complete this work today. I have an important meeting to discuss next week’s meetings in Los Angeles and there is nothing that takes precedence over a meeting about a meeting – not even this blog.
The person who wrote to me is worried that someone important to her is being terribly taken advantage of by an unscrupulous and abusive grifter and scam artist, but her friend won’t listen to reason.
As I explored all the data sent to me by the letter-writer, it struck me that her friend has a clear case of Stockholm Syndrome. From Wikipedia, the world’s most accurate and respected research website:
Stockholm syndrome can be seen as a form of traumatic bonding which does not necessarily require a hostage scenario, but which describes ‘strong emotional ties that develop between two persons where one person intermittently harasses, beats, threatens, abuses, or intimidates the other.’
One commonly used hypothesis to explain the effect of Stockholm syndrome is based on Freudian theory. It suggests that the bonding is the individual’s response to trauma in becoming a victim. Identifying with the aggressor is one way that the ego defends itself. When a victim believes the same values as the aggressor, they cease to be perceived as a threat.
Can you relate to this?
Tune in tomorrow – you won’t want to miss it.